Success and Failures

Three cases of suicide in the last 5 months in IIT Kharagpur sum up what the education system of the country has done to the youth.

Survey reports show that every hour, one student commits suicide, of which 70% are teenagers. Reasons reported are many, may it be pressure due to studies, domestic abuse or the most common these days – stress due to exams, bullying and peer pressure, all these leads to a common result. SUICIDE.

Everyone today talks about success and how to achieve it. No one talks about failures, Why? Failures are the first step towards success. Not everyone is so lucky to succeed in the very first time. One has to go through failures and learn from them. But what happens in a society where no one tells that how important failure is and how to deal with it? What happens to a generation which is always taught how to be at the top?

That’s what is happening in India. Nobody tells how to deal with failures or how to take lessons from it and try harder. All everyone is behind is how to be number one, without realizing not everyone can be number one, and hence the youth should be prepared mentally how to get hold of themselves when failures hit. The ant story of it failing to climb up and failing several time before it actually climbs has lost its existence and no one talks about it anymore. In fact there’s a new story being told these days which is somewhat like- You are competing with millions and billions and if you don’t win, you’ll be among the rest, just someone among the crowd who didn’t achieve their goal.

And what happens when a person doesn’t win? This kind of mindset created by the society makes a person think that he has lost everything and goes into depression. Even a 10th class board examination, which is not as big as the hype is created by the society feels like the whole life lost when not scored good in. The saying that ‘These are just board exams and life will have much more greater exams so don’t worry about it’ has changed to ‘These are BOARD EXAMS and will make or break your future.’

Obviously the person feels the heat and gets under pressure. This is something really wrong happening in the society and has to be changed. The success stories of people who failed several times before finally succeeding in their work are not less. The young generation need to be taught these in order to make them strong. To look at the failures in a positive way and to bounce back if failed once.

  • A team of people providing help to depressed people undergoing failures should be made along with a helpline where any person who feels low can contact these and these people could bring in the lost confidence in him/her, without even taking his/her identity. This can help as people are now a days hesitant to reveal depressive thoughts to a known person, so if they talk anonymously, maybe they step up and express what is going through their mind instead of just keeping it within themselves and suffering from them alone.
  • Also providing the youth with a friendly atmosphere and not pressurizing them could help in a huge way to reduce the ‘Communication Gap’ this generation faces quite often.
  • Inspirational talks besides just studies can also help them stay positive.
  • Making people realize success and failures are just part of life and it is important to face them because a person who has failed in life, is the one who knows what it means to succeed.
  • The encouragement among students is important and sessions for doing the same should be introduced time to time.

The key is to keep confidence in yourself, faith in your journey and patience that you can do anything, if not today, maybe tomorrow but you surely can.

–  To all the students who couldn’t do well in their recent works, don’t make it an end,          take lessons, inspiration and make it a new starting. Running from problem isn’t a              solution, getting up and facing them is.

 

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No words

She’s there,

Standing under the shed,

As I walk towards her,

And as we look at each other

There are no words needed,

Only the smiles,

And the eyes.

When she smiles,

Its like someone opening

The curtain of your room

On a sunny pleasant morning

And how the room gets light up,

That’s what it does to my life,

Every day.

And her eyes,

You’ll not see those

Anywhere else,

We look into each others eyes

And there’s some magic

That takes place as

Our eyes don’t miss a blink

And its like we saying

All the things

Our lips would never say,

Just through our eyes,

Before our first ‘Hi’

Each morning.

Just Beacuse She is a Girl?

5-year-old girl raped, dumped and left bleeding on roadside in Bengaluru

Tamil Nadu: Two drivers, conductor gang-rape 15-year-old girl in bus; 4 held

Three-year-old girl raped by neighbor in Delhi

Man gets life term for raping three-month-old baby in Hyderabad

Servant held guilty of killing, raping 81-year-old widow

And many such cases are reported everyday. According to the statistics, 140 cases of rape and 238 cases of molestation registered were registered by Delhi Police in January alone out of which 43 and 133 cases respectively remain unsolved.

These numbers would be shocking for any country in the world but not India anymore. India, where women are harassed, where men have forgotten their responsibilities, and have turned into animals, no longer is a safe place for women. Delhi, the capital of India, now, popularly known as the rape capital of India doesn’t seem to have any ending to this. Men are becoming monsters here and the dignity of a woman is in danger.

The latest one coming from Uttar Pradesh of a 37 year old woman coming back from a relative’s place was gang raped by 2 men and on going to the police station and asking for the justice, the inspector asked her to do a ‘sexual favor’ before registering an FIR.

Is this the police we reply upon for our security? Is this the police we look upto asking for justice? Is this the new way to seek justice for a girl even when there was no fault of hers?

India- Where laws are made, but not implemented. Where Girls are taught to be careful of unknown men but are unsafe in their own homes, where a newly wed woman is molested by her in laws for dowry, where a woman is raped by her own husband and the laws of the country says marital rape is not a crime, where if a girl is molested, the society questions her on ‘encouraging’ the males and boys are defended saying ‘mistakes happen’.

Mistakes? Are we even making sense by this? A 17 year boy rapes a woman and he gets away with the law by stating that he’s not an adult.  If he is old enough to rape a woman he must be punished like a grown up man. His thinking tells how old he is mentally to be punished.

People in India have forgotten who a woman is. She is the one who gives them birth. She is the one who ties a rakhi to her brother expecting him to protect her. She is the one who keeps the family connected. The one who sacrifices her home after marriage and goes to an entirely different family.

And what does she get in return? Being sexually harassed by her own husband, by her own brother. Being tortured for her right?

Do women deserve to be in a society like this? Where there’s no respect given to them? Where there’s no one to give them justice?

Today Noida, Gurgaon, Uttar Pradesh, all these have earned a major spot in the daily news. Not because they have been undergoing development, but because of the outgrowing cases of misbehavior with women. It’s often said girls should not be stopped in going out anywhere, but after all what’s happening in the country, as a parent, would you be fine with sending her out? With friends to a party, or just at a shop in locality or to a neighbor’s house?

According to the constitution, the rapists should be hanged to death but look at this way. A girl is raped, she dies and the entire family suffers, why? They lost their girl because her only fault was that she was a girl. And even if the girl stays alive, the society, with all the talks about her, kills her mentally. Everyone sees her differently. Such an incident destroys her life. Yes, It happens in India.

Why are the boys, the men not understanding their responsibility? Why aren’t they understanding that a girl in short clothes is not an opportunity to be raped? She is not giving hints. She has all the rights to wear whatever she wants.

Is it the lack of awareness or Is it the lack of education and Moral values? Where does this country lack? After the ‘Nirbhaya’ case, when the candle marches began and everyone started to ask for justice, one thought this would bring a change in the society. But what happened? Nothing changed.

Today, no one is afraid of the laws and that’s one major reason of the crimes happening. Why can’t they be made more strict? Do the rapists deserve to get away? And most of all, why are the laws not followed? Why do everyone get handicapped in front of money? People have lost their trust in the laws.

Men in this country should stand up against this and help women if anyone misbehaves with them because one day, that ‘girl’ you read about in the newspaper, can be your sister, your mother or your daughter. Maybe then the realization will come. No matter who you are, and how big family you belong to, No one, NO ONE has the right to rape a woman. Understand this and protect women, because as a country, all of us are responsible for this misbehavior against women, the one who does it and also the one who chooses not to help.

–  In hope of a future when this country is safe enough for women.